Self sabotage(self destruction) is a product of unfamiliarity, no matter how good the unknown is we will feel a sense of unease until it becomes familiar. That’s why it is hard to start something new!
We have a system of resistance for the unknown.
We are programmed to seek what we’ve known.
Even though we think we are after happiness but actually we are chasing whatever we are most used to.
The first step in healing anything is taking full accountability.
Sometimes we develop a fear within ourselves of things that we know are not going to happen, these are irrational fears whose chances are least to become the reality.
Deep within we know they are not going to happen,these fears are safe to dwell on.
So in that case instead of wasting our energy in pondering about these worst case scenarios, we have to consider the message of that fear in our life.
For instance if we fear about losing a job or getting low grades , the fear might really be the idea that you aren’t worthy of another job or you don’t have the guts to learn from your mistakes and make improvements in life. It could be our fear of failing which is not letting us take risks and in turn we lose lots of opportunities because of that fear.
If we can identify what we want to protect,we can find healthier and more secure ways to do it.
“There is a secret message behind every fear.”
